A couple of months ago a conversation between a couple of people I follow on twitter and one I don’t, appeared on my twitter timeline. Basically the conversation was about how disgusting and unclassy #sinfulsunday is and that the people who take part only do it to seek validation from strangers or “perverts” as they were called. I’m pretty sure one of them said that posting a black and white picture of your nipple online does not scream class in the slightest, hence my image this week.
These women said they would rather be judged on their personality than a picture of their body, which I kind of understand, but I don’t think they get that everyone’s personalities shine through their #sinfulsunday images.
One of these people posted a picture that said “The women who does not require validation is the most feared individual” and tagging it saying yes I am. A couple of days later this person then posted a picture of themselves in a bikini, not on their blog but on their twitter timeline. That sends very mixed messages to me!
Its double standards, its women oppressing other women for their sexuality, it is wrongly judging people, its basically slut shaming.
Why is talking about the body, about sex and expressing it in picture form so wrong? But talking about the body and sharing pictures when it’s related to exercise ok?
There are many reasons why people take part in #sinfulsunday.
Some do it because they are exhibitionists and it gives them a thrill. This gives you no right to judge them for enjoying it.
Some do it because they are not ashamed of their sexuality and what to share that. This does not make them sluts!
Some do it because its actually something that is quite fun and a creative outlet.
Some do it, myself included, because they have low self esteem and body confidence issues and hearing the lovely things that everyone in this community says about their pictures really helps them get over these issues, it has helped me a hell of a lot.
If you don’t like it, it’s very easy to mute the hash tag, unfollow people who post these pictures on their blog (I do not agree with people posting these sorts of pictures onto their twitter timeline without some sort of warning) that you disagree with so much or the most sensible/adult thing dont click the link that they post. Why is that such a revolutionary idea?!
Since I started joining in on sinfulsundays I have never felt more welcome to a community. I’ve found that they are the only part of Internet that is completely unjudgemental and completely accepting of exactly who I am, what I want to do and who I want to be.
Ill be completely honest with you, when I first came across the #sinfulsunday tag, I think it was via Exhibit A’s first SinfulStories Competition I did initially think what is wrong with these people? Why are they doing this?
Then I started following some of there blogs and got to know them as actual people and realised why each of them does it. Everyone has a reason, who are you or I to judge them?
After seeing how supportive they are of each other I actually started to feel left out, I wanted a part of this absolutely incredible community, I wanted to be one of them, to actually feel so comfortable with my body that I was willing to share pictures of it with everyone, technically the world.
It has been one of the best things I have done this year!
I still have body confidence issues but sinfulsunday really has helped me feel accepted and to accept that everybody is different, people are attracted to completely difference things so I won’t be unloved forever, there are people out there tar find my body and my mind very sexy. Where else can you get a big a confidence boost from such lovely people?
I hate that people have to project their own insecurities on to us and therefore judge us in taking part in this meme.
We don’t judge you so why do you judge us?
I have never felt so accepted in a community of people before now so I would like to thank each and everyone of you. You rock!! And I hope you all have a brilliant 2015!
Also I would be interested to know exactly why everyone did start joining in this meme?