The Best Thing – #SinfulSunday

It is the final #SinfulSunday of 2014.
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And I know sinfulsunday is meant to be all about the picture but for once this week the words, for me, are just as important.

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A couple of months ago a conversation between a couple of people I follow on twitter and one I don’t, appeared on my twitter timeline. Basically the conversation was about how disgusting and unclassy #sinfulsunday is and that the people who take part only do it to seek validation from strangers or “perverts” as they were called. I’m pretty sure one of them said that posting a black and white picture of your nipple online does not scream class in the slightest, hence my image this week.
These women said they would rather be judged on their personality than a picture of their body, which I kind of understand, but I don’t think they get that everyone’s personalities shine through their #sinfulsunday images.
One of these people posted a picture that said “The women who does not require validation is the most feared individual” and tagging it saying yes I am. A couple of days later this person then posted a picture of themselves in a bikini, not on their blog but on their twitter timeline. That sends very mixed messages to me!

Its double standards, its women oppressing other women for their sexuality, it is wrongly judging people, its basically slut shaming.

Why is talking about the body, about sex and expressing it in picture form so wrong? But talking about the body and sharing pictures when it’s related to exercise ok?

There are many reasons why people take part in #sinfulsunday.
Some do it because they are exhibitionists and it gives them a thrill. This gives you no right to judge them for enjoying it.
Some do it because they are not ashamed of their sexuality and what to share that. This does not make them sluts!
Some do it because its actually something that is quite fun and a creative outlet.
Some do it, myself included, because they have low self esteem and body confidence issues and hearing the lovely things that everyone in this community says about their pictures really helps them get over these issues, it has helped me a hell of a lot.

If you don’t like it, it’s very easy to mute the hash tag, unfollow people who post these pictures on their blog (I do not agree with people posting these sorts of pictures onto their twitter timeline without some sort of warning) that you disagree with so much or the most sensible/adult thing dont click the link that they post. Why is that such a revolutionary idea?!

Since I started joining in on sinfulsundays I have never felt more welcome to a community. I’ve found that they are the only part of Internet that is completely unjudgemental and completely accepting of exactly who I am, what I want to do and who I want to be.

Ill be completely honest with you, when I first came across the #sinfulsunday tag, I think it was via Exhibit A’s first SinfulStories Competition I did initially think what is wrong with these people? Why are they doing this?
Then I started following some of there blogs and got to know them as actual people and realised why each of them does it. Everyone has a reason, who are you or I to judge them?
After seeing how supportive they are of each other I actually started to feel left out, I wanted a part of this absolutely incredible community, I wanted to be one of them, to actually feel so comfortable with my body that I was willing to share pictures of it with everyone, technically the world.

It has been one of the best things I have done this year!

I still have body confidence issues but sinfulsunday really has helped me feel accepted and to accept that everybody is different, people are attracted to completely difference things so I won’t be unloved forever, there are people out there tar find my body and my mind very sexy. Where else can you get a big a confidence boost from such lovely people?

I hate that people have to project their own insecurities on to us and therefore judge us in taking part in this meme.
We don’t judge you so why do you judge us?

I have never felt so accepted in a community of people before now so I would like to thank each and everyone of you. You rock!! And I hope you all have a brilliant 2015!

Also I would be interested to know exactly why everyone did start joining in this meme?

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21 Responses to The Best Thing – #SinfulSunday

  1. Diverse Male says:

    Nicely written post again, very insightful and interesting.

    And you have a beautiful body, glad this is helping you see that.

  2. mariasibylla says:

    I love this photo. The stark shadow, your lovely breast, it all works beautifully.

    I also adore your words. I love Sinful Sunday for just the reasons you described. And to answer your question, that’s why I first joined in. I followed for a few months, seeing all the different photos and reading all the lovely comments and I thought it would be a way to push myself, to open myself up in a safe place. It has been more amazing than I could have imagined, building my confidence and my self image by leaps and bounds.

    My only regret is that I didn’t have Sinful Sunday when I was younger. 🙂

  3. Charlie, you are amazing – and those words are strong and proud!

    Love your image (it’s very classy indeed. I can imagine it on the wall of a hotel lobby.)

    xx Dee

  4. Reblogged this on Lil Miss Shalla and commented:
    #SinfulSunday is all about the image but here is a good example of WHY we post, beautiful/powerful words

  5. i have always loved to write, telling stories and putting down the many things i felt passionately about… but people took that from me, stole my confidence

    i have always loved photography, no training but i grew up with a camera in my hands and not always having film inside… i took pictures of everything and anyone

    i have always struggled with self worth and image issues
    at 16 i used to be 5′ and 110lbs (looking thinner though cause i had a lot of muscle) but the red hair gave me issues…. now at 35 i am 5′ and 187lbs (6 pregnancies later kinda does that)

    i still have body issues but people seem to love my size, some still judge before really seeing “me” but others love the fact that i have the courage to share myself for others to see… i have many messages where people have learned to be more comfortable with their body because i am

    i did a one year stint on the radio as a sex therapist, that gave me courage to keep my mouth open and continue to spout out my thoughts

    from there i met people on twitter, eventually meeting molly
    she has been the inspiration to start my blog, to keep writing

    my life has been complicated and more so since i met her and the others but i have been blogging for 2 years and some days the only post i make is for sinful sunday

    i have so much to say, so much passion to give (be it sexual/sensual or sci fi or cooking recipes) but so many things get in my way

    it feels good to have molly notice me, to have others who have become important in my life (if they know it or not) to notice me… not so much the “attention whore” but the “yes you still exist”

    so i participate in sinful sunday for a lot of complicated reasons

    the most important for me being… helping others feel good about themselves/their body/not feeling alone in the way they feel… feeding my need to be creative… remembering to live and enjoy life

    your image and your words are wonderful

  6. I love your words. For myself, I started it because my sister stopped it. She didn’t intentionally, she just gets a bit overwhelmed with life from time to time, so I picked up the slack. It terrified me for reasons I can’t even remember anymore. And then everyone was so supportive, and it became less scary. I found I liked getting creative visually, being challenged for new photos, sharing my world on a more visual aspect besides just using words.
    I now am feeling a lot more confident and love giving compliments to others – we so often fail to voice positive opinions in our day to day life.

  7. mcpervy says:

    I love that you used the image that those people were saying wasn’t classy. Very rebellious. You put into words a lot of ideas I hadn’t even considered and I’m glad you got the conversation (in my head) started.

    I hadn’t really thought about why I started posting in sinful Sunday. I suppose partly because I am a bit of an exhibitionist. The fact that it was a sort of opening into the sex blogging community was a big plus. Up until that point I hadn’t posted erotic/porn pics of myself On my blog, although there’s plenty on all the big gay hook up sites. It was fun being creative and “artistic” with my pics which was a totally different approach from the “look at my big hard dick” goal I was used to.

    I continue posting because, as you wrote, this community is incredibly supportive and encouraging. Instead of the generic comment about fucking or sucking from a guy that I barely regard as a real person I get what I consider real comments from real people. It’s only a little surreal that it’s mostly women being appreciative of my cock shot

  8. KaziG says:

    Lovely shadow shot!

    Wow, that was quite a shock to read that. I’ve been participating in this meme since it began. It’s taught me so much about erotic photography and the beauty inside.

    ~Kazi xxx

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  10. Tabitha R says:

    Wow – I know I’m late to this particular party – but that was wonderful – lovely image too x x x

  11. Charlie just catching-up with emails, comments etc. etc. etc. (LOL!!!) after the festive break . . . and just wanted to say how lovely this post is. Wonderful words and sexy silhouette. AND, And, and just agree with you so much about helping with self-esteem and confidence etc.
    So glad I found this, it has made my morning!!!
    Xxx – K

  12. Molly says:

    I guess my reason is slightly different as I created the meme but I did it because I had found taking my images had been such a positive thing in my life and I wanted to try to encourage others to explore the idea in the hope that they might find something similar for themselves. Also, to build a community of people where that would be embraced with positivity and acceptance. I am, every single day, very proud that it seems I managed to achieve that and that it is has been such a force for good in so many peoples lives.

    Mollyxxx

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