A few weeks ago on twitter I mentioned that I thought getting sexual performance reviews (I’m sure other people had talked about this before too) after having sex with someone might be a good thing and how it could be quite useful to receive.
As I have mentioned so many times before on this blog that I’m starting to sound like a broken record, I haven’t had a lot of sex over the past few years and I was scared that when I eventually did have it my main concern was what if I was awful at it.
I think it was @Kilted_Wookie who said you have breasts, a vagina and were willing to have sex with them so to a guy it will always be good.
Sadly the women’s brain (or maybe its just my brain) doesn’t work like that so when I did eventually have sex I was left with lots of doubts. Damn my over thinking brain again.
So many questions come to mind.
I can’t have been the best but surely I wasn’t the worst?
Was I good at sucking your cock?
What can I improve on to make it better?
When I talk about sexual performance reviews I do not mean someone pointing out every flaw that you have and everything you do wrong.
My self esteem could not cope with that at all. I don’t know anyone’s that could.
I want someone to praise me for what I do well and to give me pointers at how I can improve on certain aspects that will create more enjoyment for both parties.
I personally struggle with being able to articulate in person exactly what I like when it come to sex. Call me a prude, I don’t know. It’s just not in my nature (or I’ve never been given the opportunity in the past) to ask for what I want.
So can I ask for a performance review when I can’t give one myself?
I think it all stems down to one thing. I’ve reached the stage in my life where I just want to be guided and to learn about the different aspects of sexual pleasure. How will I know what I like if I don’t try it? How will I know what you like if you don’t tell me?
Basically, I am a student, who will be my teacher?
*This post was added to #WickedWednesday prompt #142: Reviews on the 18th February 2015